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Self Esteem – Take a look in the mirror!
What do you see when you look in the mirror?
There are a lot of people in the world who look in the mirror and see someone who is exhausted, stressed, living paycheck to paycheck… someone who is not happy… someone who prays for better days to come before today has even started. There are many things that can contribute to low self esteem but I am not going to discuss these… most of us know what these can be.
Do you suffer from low self esteem or know someone who does? I am not an expert educated in this matter but can tell you that I, on occasion, have felt hit by feelings of low self-worth… and I can tell you from first hand experience that there are things YOU can do to help heal yourself from low self-esteem or self-worth… to peel away the untruths and reveal the real you.
Stay true to yourself…
Look inward. You don’t want to point fingers at others for your feelings of low self esteem. Love yourself. If you don’t love yourself you are hardly in a position to be able to love anyone or anything else in your life… take a look at your true self… look inward to find your passions in life and choose to set goals and live your dreams based on those passions.
Focus on the 90%…
A book I read some time ago provided me insight and courage to look at my life with positivity… my job, my coworkers, my clients, my family… but most importantly, MYSELF! “Focus on the 90%”, by Darci Lang, can provide you the same insight and courage to change the way you view your life. The long and short of it is YOU choose where to focus your attention in life… on the negative 10% of your life or on the 90% of your life that is positive and inspiring… affirming and enriching.
Another book I have read that I highly recommend is “Loving What Is”, by Byron Katie. This book, affectionately referred to as “The Work” provides you with four simple questions to ask yourself about a specific problem and enables you to see it in a completely new way.
“It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem”
- Byron Katie
Take pride in your accomplishments…
Look at your day and set goals… even small ones. Take pride in the fact that you accomplish small goals. Keep in mind that everyone goes through hardships in life… it is how YOU choose to deal with those hardships that determines your self worth/esteem. If you see yourself as worthless it is likely others in your life will see you that way too… choose to see your true self worth, your high self worth, by taking pride in your accomplishments and others will see you that way also.
Keep family and friends close…
Unsolicited opinions from family and friends can sometimes serve to deepen feelings of low self esteem if you let them. Recognize that people are allowed their opinions and that they are exactly that… opinions… usually based on their experiences and fears in life and without the benefit of the whole story. That said, your family and friends are your true support structure in life. They love you and support you. Talk with them, stay honest and true to yourself and to them… talk enthusiastically about your efforts and goals and they are likely to join in that enthusiasm.
YOU CAN CHOOSE!
Accept the fact that you control your life and you have it within you to focus on the positive in your life. You can choose to change the way you look at the negative in your life as well… your fears, your hardships… change the way you think about these aspects of your life. Instead of fearing or expecting negative outcomes in life, choose to focus on, visualize, and expect positive outcomes.
It is not selfish to focus on YOU first. What you think of yourself, truly LOVING yourself, is vitally important in overcoming feelings of low self esteem. Choose to be happy and do what leads you down a path of achieving your goals… small goals and bigger, longer term aspirations and then take pride in achieving those goals.
The value you place on YOU is what determines your self esteem and your outlook on life… seize the moment and choose you, be present for you, and the value you place on YOU will be very high!